Blog Kristi Jenkins October 6, 2025
A family home is more than brick and mortar. It’s birthdays, holiday dinners, and countless everyday moments that shaped your family story. For aging parents, the home can also symbolize security and independence. Bringing up the idea of selling can feel like you’re asking them to give up part of who they are.
When I first mentioned the possibility of selling to my parents, the response was immediate: resistance. Not because they didn’t see the challenges of maintaining the house, but because they weren’t ready to let go of what it represented. That’s when I realized this conversation had to be handled with sensitivity, patience, and a whole lot of listening.
The worst time to have this conversation is in the middle of a crisis. Bring it up before health, finances, or home maintenance become unmanageable. Early conversations allow your parents to feel more in control and less pressured.
What worked for us: I started casually by asking questions like, “Do you ever think about what it would be like to live somewhere with less upkeep?” or “Would you want to be closer to family if things ever got harder with the house?” Framing it as curiosity rather than a decision helped open the door.
Yes, there are practical reasons to sell a home, lower expenses, easier maintenance, better safety. But your parents likely won’t respond to a spreadsheet of pros and cons. They want to feel heard.
Try this approach:
Acknowledge their emotions: “I know this house holds so many memories for you and for me too.”
Share your perspective gently: “I worry about the stairs as you get older. I want you safe, but I also want you to be comfortable.”
Avoid ultimatums. Instead, frame it as exploring options together.
When my parents first warmed up to the idea, it wasn’t because they were tired of mowing the lawn, it was because they could picture what came next. Selling wasn’t an ending; it was a beginning.
Some benefits to highlight:
Less maintenance = more free time for travel, hobbies, or relaxation.
Accessibility = single-level homes, communities with amenities, or locations closer to healthcare.
Financial freedom = selling a large home may provide resources for retirement dreams.
Proximity to family = being closer to kids and grandkids can be a powerful motivator.
When framed as an opportunity rather than a loss, the conversation shifts from fear to possibility.
Sometimes, parents need to hear it from someone other than their children. A trusted real estate advisor, financial planner, or even a close family friend can add perspective without the emotional weight.
In our case, a conversation with their longtime financial advisor helped my parents see how selling would support their retirement goals. Hearing it framed in financial security terms not just emotional terms, made a big difference.
One of the biggest fears aging parents have is losing control. To ease this, include them in every step. Tour new communities together. Let them decide what’s most important in a new home. Encourage them to share what possessions or spaces hold the most meaning.
When my parents finally decided to move forward, we spent weekends walking through potential homes together. It felt less like I was “taking away” their house and more like we were planning something exciting as a family.
This isn’t a one-and-done conversation. For us, it took months of discussions, pauses, and revisiting the topic. There were tears, disagreements, and even moments of backtracking. But with patience, empathy, and consistent support, the decision became theirs, not mine. And that made all the difference.
Talking to your aging parents about selling the family home is one of the hardest, yet most important conversations you’ll ever have. It’s about balancing respect for their independence with concern for their safety and quality of life.
My advice? Start early, listen deeply, and remember that you’re not just selling a house—you’re helping your parents step into a new chapter with dignity and love.
Start the conversation early before it’s urgent.
Lead with empathy, not just logic.
Focus on the benefits of what comes next.
Involve trusted advisors when needed.
Give your parents ownership of the process.
Be patient, it takes time.
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With a 20-year total of more than $100M in sales, her experience shines through. Whether she’s working with first-time home buyers or seasoned investors in a complex deal, Kristi walks through each stage of the home sale and makes sure you feel supported and understood.